(242nd day, 123 more days to go)
Dear “Crazy” Baby Mamas:
Hey, CrazyBabyMamas!!! I have an issue with my daughter’s father. We are at home for the holidays so since my daughter and I live in another state, her father hasn’t seen her in years. So he picked her up to take her out for a day of fun riding go-carts. When they returned he told my boyfriend and I that she looked like she was going to get sick. As she was coughing, I noticed that she didn’t have her coat on (which she had on before they left). When I asked where was it, she said it was in her bag and all he did was hand her a Burger King bag then he left. And he even had enough time to post pictures of them on Facebook. Needless to say, she ended up getting sick and couldn’t do anything for a week. I sent him a text to bring her some medicine but all he said was that he lived too far from where we were staying. Keep in mind, we were about 45 minutes away instead of the 18 hours where we actually live. I believe he could have done more than that and my boyfriend doesn’t understand why I am so mad at him.
Well, Mama, I hate to tell you this but “it is what it is.” Since he hasn’t seen his daughter in years and you guys live only 18 hours away then it’s safe to say that you got yourself a S.A.M…Sorry Ass Motherf**ker for a Baby Daddy. I normally don’t use that phrase (which you can find in our book, Are You A “Crazy” Baby Mama? A Handbook For Single Moms) but he has shown you the type of father he is by NOT driving, flying, walking, swimming, or even catching a bus to see his child or send her a ticket for her to come see him (IF she’s old enough to travel alone). So, why waste your energy by being mad at him because I’m sure this wouldn’t be the first time that you would take care of your sick child. I’m sure YOU have been the one to stay home from work to take care of her. I’m sure that YOU were the one to take her to the doctor. I’m sure YOU have done all of this without him. I commend you for still allowing him to take his daughter out despite the fact he hasn’t seen her in years because some moms wouldn’t. Just keep doing you and be “Crazy” for your daughter instead of acting “Crazy” toward her father. In the end, you have to trust that your daughter will see her dad for who he really is.